Olive Garden – no restaurant has been as accommodating to my daughter’s quirks (plain pasta, meatball and sauce on separate plates).
I always tip REALLY well when a server at any restaurant accommodates us, which I am glad to do.
My daughter has learned from watching me that if you ask nicely, servers will help you. And if they can, they will do what you ask.
Sometimes, what she asks is, “Will it look like the picture?” Sometimes she will just say, “Mom, will you explain how I want it?” If she is feeling good, confident and comfortable, she is more likely to express her preferences herself. I encourage her to address server the directly, but I follow her cues – if she is visibly nervous, anxious – or having some word confusion – I offer to step in to help.
We tend to frequent the same restaurants, family friendly ones, because she has trouble deciding what she wants if there are too many choices.
Her brother has set a good example, too. He is always generous and polite to wait staff. She is always watching to see how he does things – she wants to be like him,