Monthly, I attend family weekends with my daughter. The facility where she resides reserves hotel rooms and provides meals so families can spend time together.
I always go. Sometimes my daughter’s behavior is excellent in the weeks before, and she gets to spend the night at the hotel with me. Many times, her behavior is not good, and she comes over to the daytime events, returning to the facility overnight. Either way, we get to spend hours and hours together and I love that.
Something always puzzles me at the weekends, however.
The rules are very rigid; this is necessary for the young people who reside at the facility. This is a group who sees things black and white; something is, or isn’t acceptable. For this group there is no in between – they understand the rules and most try hard to follow them. This part is not puzzling.
What puzzles me are the family members (just a few) who come, and ignore the rules. We are not talking criminal activity here. We are talking about things like: No cellphone use during programming, or no outside food or drink during programming.
I do follow the rules – I want my daughter to see that I think it is important. I want her to know that she is capable of following rules….of doing what is expected. I want her to understand that life is easier when you do what you are supposed to do. And I don’t want the distraction of a cell phone during the precious time I have with her; she is far more important than the latest music video, text message or tweet.