I’ve personally experienced a different kind of ‘stuck.’ It’s not a developmental issue, like my daughter.
No, this is different. Maybe ‘oblivious ‘would be a better word for my issue.
For a long time I didn’t realize I was stuck (see, I WAS oblivious)… not moving forward…not making future plans.
One reason for that is that things with my daughter were so unsettled. I was so focused on her future, that I forgot to think about my own. When I did make plans for myself, like planning to retire at 62, it was because that plan coincided with plans for my daughter. My 62nd birthday is about when she will graduate from high school and move closer to family. I want to be more available to her when she moves closer.
But there is another reason for it, as well: I wasn’t sure what I wanted. I really hadn’t spent any time figuring out what my future would look like! or what I wanted it to look like!
How did I figure this out? One day, my friend asked me what I planned to do when I retired. It was then that I realized I really didn’t have a plan and that I really wasn’t sure what I wanted. My friend has a way of asking questions that really make me think!