My friend of the frequent phone calls has tremendous friendship retention.*
But in my life, friendships change or end. Distance, time, changes in circumstance. Sounds like a math story problem, doesn’t it?
Some friendships just fade. They are still there, just not as vivid. These are the friends it is easy to reconnect with when they come to town or call out of the blue, or when you run into them at the grocery store. It’s like finding a comfortable pair of shoes in the back of the closet and discovering they still fit perfectly.
Other friendships end with a bang – an argument or betrayal; fortunately, I haven’t experienced many of those.
The saddest ones are the ones that vanish suddenly like a magician’s trick, into thin air: Makes you suspect the friendship was just a skillful illusion, makes you feel that you’ve been watching from the audience rather than being an active part of the show. When the curtain comes down you are still wondering what happened.
*Quite a tongue twister!