I got a letter from Summit County Children’s Services today, asking for information to renew my daughter’s adoption subsidy for another year.
I have regular visits with my daughter at her residential facility; I participate in her therapy; I have regular contact with her social workers/case managers, the juvenile court and and her guardian ad litem. My daughter has been in the custody of Summit county for over four years. That is when her adoption subsidy ceased – over four years ago.
Let me make this clear: She is still my daughter; it is only the subsidy that has ceased. (I have surrendered custody voluntarily to obtain for her the services that she needs.)
Every year I get the same form letter from Summit County Children Services, asking me to provide proof she is in school and still living in my home – and every year it makes me cry. I wish she could be living here – but it is not possible. And since she is in the custody of the county, the county should be fully aware that she is not living here, shouldn’t they?
Every year I call the county to politely ask them to take me off this particular mailing list, since my daughter is in their custody, in a planned permanent living arrangement (PPLA). The county should be able to take me off of the mailing list, shouldn’t they?
Every year I get the same, lame excuses (computer issues, changes in staff , red tape) and vague assurances that I shouldn’t get the letter next year. The county should, after four years, be able to figure out a way to correct this issue, shouldn’t they?
When I called the county today, the fourth year in a row I have made this painful call, I was quite tearful. The adoption department social worker feel could clearly hear that I was crying, and I could hear that my crying was making her very uncomfortable.
I am not sorry for making her feel badly. Not sorry at all.